Tea Pot

I believe every person undergoes different stages and understanding of what life is. Physically we can see a dramatic changes from a baby into a grown up. When we were a baby, everyone around us treated us nicely, everyone served us. No responsibilities were asked from us. As we grew older, one by one, we need to take up the responsibilities. From a very basic simple thing, like putting the food into our mouth, until we have the ability to make a living and feed our own family. In brief, we change from a taker to a giver.
For those above things we can simply notice the changes. I remember I met a friend of my Mom. She said that she still remembered when I was a baby, she carried me before. Now, she said, I have grown to be a man and can have a baby of my own ^_^. She noticed the changes.
However, what about our soul? Is it easy to notice this change? Do we know easily how old inside a person is? It is not that easy. We see a person holds a high position in an MNC, draws a high salary, enough to feed his/her family but when we talk to him/her, we can feel that he/she is still a small kid inside.
After sometimes I realize one common trait in them. They are takers. They can talk in beautiful words, threaten others, cry, persuade, tell lies and do other things, but in the end the focus is about themselves. For babies, when they cry, they get something but for grown ups, things are getting more complicated and sometimes we cannot see clearly what is going on. For example, some go to do religious rituals (eg: churches or temples) but again in the end, the focus is themselves. Not the God, God becomes their slave. God should, or even sometimes must, give what they want. They cry telling God that they have sinned but is it really they regret about their sin or they just cry to release the tension inside and feel good because they believe God forgives them? Good feeling is not the same as goodness!!
Some go out and look for friends. They treat the friend nicely, give them everything, but when their friends miss out something or don't treat them back the same way, they get very angry. They say they are hurt, but how they define a friendship? Treat someone nice in order for the someone treats us nice? Is a friendship similar to a trade transaction?
So again, it is so complicated until we usually cannot see what the objective behind all of these people actions. However, again, one thing in common we can see is they don't give, they want to take.
If we touch our heart, honestly we know that a grown up is someone who can take responsibilities. He/she gives, he/she sacrifices, he/she is like an oasis in the middle of desert. When we were small, if we cried or we fell sick, our parents held us in their hand, hugged us, gave us medicine, they loved us. Our parents looked after us day and night, consistently took care of us. Their love was so abundant, they gave and gave. Same thing applies, a grown up is like a full tea pot. They can pour the tea to others without getting tired. They don't need others to pour the tea in order to make their tea pot full.
Does it mean that this kind of people don't need other people? Does it mean they are so full until they can live alone in this world? Technically, they can!
For these people, giving the tea to others is an option. They choose to interact with others, they choose to love. Life is in their hands, not in other people hands. When they fall in love, they give. They give without expecting something in return. They really love their partners. Love is not a trade transactions. Of course they feel sad when their loved ones betray or do something bad to them but they know this will not change their values, it will not change their core, it only hurts their feeling, the surface.
I believe a person will attract another person with the same level of maturity. In this case, when the 'full pot' persons meet, they will strengthen each other, they will bring out the best characters and potential of their partners.